• Should I Quit My Job to Travel?

    Quit-your-job-and-travel-the-world could be the latest epitome of success for the millennials. But do you really have to quit your job to travel? My first traveling experience, as an adult, was to Bandung, a city 185 kilometres

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  • How We Say Goodbye When Summer Ends

    Our retrouvailles marked the end of summer in your city. The city I came to love despite its constant windy chills and random rain showers: in summer. We remembered the couch—with plush pillows and soft blankets thrown carelessly over its surface; something that

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  • On Learning How to Love My Body.

    “Have you lost some weight?”  Recently, this was the first thing people said to me–especially if they haven’t seen me for quite a while. Then the follow-up questions soon ensue: Are you on a diet? What have

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  • A Gift of Being.

    Even if our only prayer is gratitude, maybe it’s enough. Even if our only ablution is acceptance, maybe it’s enough. Even if our only service is being compassionate, maybe it’s enough. Even if our only invocation

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  • About Someone Who Loves You.

    One day, you’ll understand that the highest compliment you could ever receive is having someone who is with you; instead of having someone who wants to be with you. PHOTO BY NICO WIJAYA. By then, you’ve learned

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  • What’s So Good About Goodbyes?

    I guess I always knew that the word good and bye don’t just sit together side by side like that for no reason. There must be something good in goodbyes, although I know how difficult it is to accept that–especially if you’re the

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  • Stepping Up To My Plate.

    It was late afternoon, and we were sitting at a nook in our Parisian hotel room, looking at a wall fully decorated with beautiful painted plates. “I’m going to eat on that one,” I pointed at a

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  • The Answer.

    We always think that we need The Answer. To move on. To have a closure. To be sure. To be double sure. To decide on what we want to do. To find out whether we should or should not fall in love completely. But why do we need to get The Answer from someone else to decide on whether we want to smile or weep; move on or fall in love?

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  • 2014: Kissing Fireworks in Alor

    I don’t normally spend New Year’s Eve traveling or partying with friends. Most of the times, I’ll be reading some good books in my bed until the clock strikes 12. This year, 10 days before New

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  • The Traveling Words.

    One of the reasons why I love second-hand books is this: because sometimes–when I get lucky, I’ll find one with hand-written notes inside of it. I am always fascinated by such random collision of lives; knowing

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  • Be Gentle With Yourself.

    Imagine a friend of ours coming over. When we saw her, we realized that she has gained some weight. Do we tell her: “You’re so fat. You’re so ugly. You’re lazy. You don’t work out. That’s

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